Atheist dating a christian
“We both found that each other was not the ‘scary atheist’ and ‘crazy Christian’ that we were led to believe,” says Julie, a Lutheran married to an atheist.
“We both have the same views and morals and outlook on how life should be, how people should treat other people, animals, and the earth. The only difference is I think there is a God and he does not.” Religious and nonreligious partners alike say that having a spouse on the other side of the aisle has made them smarter, more effective, and more empathetic in their engagement and activism and better examples of their own worldview.
“It may seem strange, but I think I’m a better Muslim than I was before I met my [agnostic] wife,” says Fadi.
“I used to see things in fairly black and white ways and was very judgmental.
One respondent after another described having deeper conversations with their partners and learning more about each other in the process than they ever did in their shared-belief relationships.
“It has caused friction at times,” says one, “but it has also ultimately brought us closer together.” “I have had to lose so many assumptions about atheists, and in some cases, about Christians as well,” says Alise, an Independent Protestant…
“Having my nice little Christian bubble popped has, at the end of the day, been a good thing.“Despite my best friend being extremely religious and my family being fairly religious, I had a very toxic relationship with religion when I met my partner in high school,” says Stephanie, an atheist.“I felt it was inferior to atheism, close-minded, and overall a negative influence in the world.Helping couples work through such issues is one of the main purposes of this book.But most couples do find the challenges manageable, tension usually decreases over time, and many people find that the benefits outweigh the challenges..