Dating a widow with children
This is where I stand, as I consider dating once again. Gabriel developed epilepsy from a traumatic brain injury he sustained after being hit by a drunk driver 10 years prior, and he died from something known as Sudden Unexplained Death in Epilepsy (SUDEP). He was a minister of music, a gifted singer, drummer and pianist; I am a Christian minister, and was the guest preacher.
It was two days after our third wedding anniversary. He told me he knew I was the one after he heard me preach. I will never forget the way he smiled at me from behind the church organ.
The older women at my church love to tell me the stories of how they or their mothers didn’t remarry until their children graduated from high school. Besides, I know how serious marriage is and what it takes to keep it together, especially during the tough times. ” As I reflect on the woman I’ve become after surviving such a devastating blow, what man wouldn’t want me with all of this? Lauren Jones is an Itinerant Elder in the African Methodist Episcopal Church (AME) and serves in the Washington, DC metropolitan area.
She blogs at about her adventures as a mother and minister.
If a scene could sum up some of my first thoughts after my husband died last year at age 28, it would be the scene in the hit BET series “Being Mary Jane,” when Robinne Lee’s character, Avery, lifts up her shirt exposing her stomach full of stretch marks. She had two kids and the body to prove it, and reentering the dating scene seemed too much to handle.
Avery had just found out her husband had cheated, and was wrestling with the decision whether to leave or stay.
One would include those of her intended and his late spouse, and the next wall would be a continuation of pictures of the life they were leading.
You might consider the fact that the better the relationship a new partner had in a past relationship, the more he/she knows about how to make unions work.Know what to expect on anniversaries, birthdays and other days that were special to your new partner and his/her late spouse.Being aware and understanding about another person's feelings allows you to be gracious and sensitive to your new partner.A late spouse was most probably a very big part of your new partner's life and to get upset every time his/her name is mentioned makes for a very uncomfortable situation - for both of you.It is important, especially at the beginning of a relationship, to allow the widow/er to talk freely about his or her late spouse.